When we’re grappling with a big decision our thoughts and feelings can go round and round, stuck in a loop that we can’t find a way to divert or direct.

It can feel exhausting, like we’re not getting anywhere, and yet… sometimes circling is an important part of our process.

In my own experience - and in coaching others - I find that we can often circle and explore the same topic or decisions over a number of sessions, days, weeks or months.

Especially if it’s a big one. One that takes us somewhere new or different in our life, work or relationships. One that impacts our lives or the people around us.

And that’s absolutely fine.

Do you like to dive straight in?

To say yes in the moment?

To trust your gut, make fast decisions and get into action?

And does that work for you?

Or not?

Because there can be different speeds to make great choices.

When you feel like there’s a right answer to something, and you’re not sure what it is, how do you feel?

Energised and open? Excited by all the possibilities?

Probably not.

Stuck? Anxious? Scared of getting it wrong? Worried you’ll make a mistake that can’t be undone?

More likely!

Often we can get really stuck trying to work out the right answer to something.

Which way to go? Which direction to pick? Which option to choose?

It can feel black and white, as though one way is good and the other not. As though there’s no going back. The decision making process can feel tight, and stressful.

These types of right/wrong choices can come up in coaching conversations. Often around the big things, but often about the small things too.

I am the proud owner of a standing desk. I’ve had it for about 6 weeks now and I LOVE it.

I stand up to coach and feel both more grounded and more flexible. I am less tired at the end of the day - less crunched up.

I get a ridiculous sense of joy when I press the button to move it up and down!

So, how did I make the decision to get one?

When you need to make an important decision, what comes up for you?

Do you agonise over the choices, worrying about what will happen if you make the wrong one?

Do you instinctively know which one feels right, but can’t quite bring yourself to make the final call?

Does it feel like you are stuck in the same thought cycle of pros and cons?