I have a new pair of jeans. They caught my eye in my local shop and I picked them up on a whim. When I tried them, on I loved them instantly - so comfortable, so soft, such a nice fit!

Then second guessed myself. Were they OK? Did they look OK on me? They were a very different shape, and I didn’t look like I normally did.

I really needed a second opinion, another pair of eyes, a sense check. So, I asked the person in the shop those questions. I know, like and trust her perspective - she always let me know (very directly!) if something suits me or not.

It really helped.

I’ve done more yoga this year than ever before, and I love both the movement and the insights I get on the mat.

So often something a yoga teacher says will strike a chord.

My most recent a-ha moment was about conscious flexibility - actively choosing when to stretch and when not to.

It linked so clearly for me into our personal boundaries.

Lots of us can stretch, accommodate, adjust.

We can hang out in our flexibility. It can become part of who we are.

We can extend ourselves but hurt ourselves in the process.

We can push ourselves beyond our limits trying to keep up with others.

Sometimes its good to stretch - we don’t want to turn into statues.

Sometimes it’s not - we don’t want to snap.

How do you feel about changing your mind?

About unravelling a decision.

About saying no to something that felt like a wholehearted yes when you started? Or vice versa?

It can be hard to reverse a decision that once felt good.

And yet it’s really important to pay attention to where you are now, rather than where you were when you started.

Because circumstances can change. And so can you.

One of my new favourite ways to spend Sunday morning is in a warm yoga class at my local studio.

It’s the perfect balance of relaxing and intense (even though I’m always lulled into a false sense of security by the gentleness of the first 15 minutes!).

And this week it came with the added bonus of a huge a-ha moment.

As we settled into our mats the yoga teacher (the brilliant Kayleigh) set up the session.

She reminded us that it was our practice. At any time we could take a break or make a change.

I’ve heard this before and know it makes sense. I’m even getting better at actually doing it :-)

But her next sentence really landed it for me:

“Just because I tell you to do something, doesn’t mean you have to”.

Game changer.