When you feel like there’s a right answer to something, and you’re not sure what it is, how do you feel?

Energised and open? Excited by all the possibilities?

Probably not.

Stuck? Anxious? Scared of getting it wrong? Worried you’ll make a mistake that can’t be undone?

More likely!

Often we can get really stuck trying to work out the right answer to something.

Which way to go? Which direction to pick? Which option to choose?

It can feel black and white, as though one way is good and the other not. As though there’s no going back. The decision making process can feel tight, and stressful.

These types of right/wrong choices can come up in coaching conversations. Often around the big things, but often about the small things too.

And when there’s a question that feels like this it can be useful - and fun - to bring in some different energy.

To take a step back and throw lots of options into the mix.

To ask: What would be the most…

Easy
Fun
Awful
Challenging
Exciting
Risky
Straightforward
Hilarious
Useful
Speedy
Irresponsible

… thing to do here?

The goal is not to find the right answer, but to open up our thinking to the fact that there are so many different ways forward, and none of them are the only option. That there’s always a different way to approach something.

The ‘right answer’ is normally something different than the choices you were deciding between at the start..

And it doesn’t have to be right forever.

What if there’s no ‘right’ answer?

What if you can explore the possibilities and choose a step that feels good (fun, scary, exciting) instead?

Wishing you all a wonderful week,