Do you ever find yourself stuck between a rock and a hard place in your mind?
Caught between two opposing options - both of which feel like a compromise, neither of which feel like a realistic solution?
Endlessly going back and forth between the pros and cons of each without finding an answer?
It’s not a fun place to be, and many of us get stuck here.
But what if we didn’t have to pick a side?
What if we could meet ourselves in the middle and find a way forward?
When we’re in disagreement with, or see things differently from, another person there are tools and frameworks to help us.
We can get curious about each side and ask:
What do we each want here?
What’s important to each of us about that?
Where are we each fixed and where are we flexible?
What do we both agree on, and where are the sticky parts?
What do we each need to get so we can feel good about the way forward?
Can we come to a mutually agreeable solution - or not?
But we can forget to do this when the opposing points of view are both ours.
To use these same questions to explore the different parts of us that can’t come to an agreement.
To stop trying to pick a side and start to listen, understand, and see if there’s a way forward.
Are you in an argument with yourself?
And what would be possible if you didn’t have to pick a side?
Wishing you a week of inner collaboration,
